Be warned reading negative criticisms, offensive remarks and victim blaming in this article if you find me upsetting you.
I am sitting in the middle between young adults experiences today; 1) facing lack of opportunities such as secured employment, access to education, own a home and social security, and 2) lacking basic life and social skills.
My life is all about that. The most luxury item I own is a car. Ford Fiesta 2008 model. I feel good to own transportation because of having independency. I afforded academic scholarships which that helped me succeed my career today. My argument is we are missing social and communication empathy of young adults today.
Positive news is that my disabilities didn't stop me to own and drive a car, living independently away from home, run a company, being a keynote speaker and travelling. These are key personal achievements, based out of my own respect and responsibility by listening to experienced people giving me advice. Unfortunately, everyday I faced negative or ableist criticisms from people at my age commenting on my social and communication skills. This is the thing they don't understand. There no such thing as 'poor'. I am being me, who is different to everybody else. This quote below tells you why:
While I have figured myself who I am, what I want to do with my life and my future aspirations. At nearly 28 years old I feel good to have these commitments ready. Unfortunately this doesn't seem the case for many others. Every day I questioned acquaintances and strangers where I met at universities, Meetup.com groups, community events and organisations - "what you do for living?". More than 70% of the time they don't answer this question. Why?
Many are still at universities, after trying to finish their first degrees, and still living with their parents not deciding who they want to live with. Maturity and independence is a biggest factor here. I developed maturity quite early in 20's, but my networking experiences today is still troublesome for me. I am still finding so difficult to maintain friendships and relationships. People who are like my quirks and uniqueness.
Self-discovery is what I have achieved through my passion and personal experiences unlike many 27 year olds are still partying like college kids, travelling around the world without money in their pockets and more politicised/factioned than previous generations. I used to be Greens Party member for 4 and half years being part of their Young Greens movement. It has been amazing experience networking and finding people who are like you sharing same passion and values.
But why left politics and activism movement? Lack of empathy nor respect from those Young Greens members showing lack of social and communication skills. Many young adults are now too focused on by society 'norms' with high expectations of personal status, distracted by social media and lacking life skills portraying acts of courtesy. Every single time when developing tasks and responsibilities, they leave to the last minute. This makes me feel underprepared! They showed lack of consistency by not following my voice nor direct action items that supposed to complete by the deadline. Hello!? We need to get this done by the day!
Group assignments at universities were nightmare to me as well where many so called academics lacking basic social and communication responsibilities. This irritates and frustrates me. What is so scary for me is living in same generation not finding consistent and respectful young adults. It very difficult to form teams, create deliverables from action items, and relationships.
I grew up living with social anxiety and depression because I didn't learn about resilience and self-control. I learned myself who I am, being quirky and unique. Also I realised that having natural social and communication connections are super important to me. It helps me maintaining my health and wellbeing. It very difficult to accept that is now a luxury dream to achieve.
So what we should do? We need to stop relying on media and technology that driving factors of short attention span. Don't compare yourself with others. You look beautiful. Forget about buying too much fashion that make you 'think' you look better. Having higher number of sexual partners will not win you. Quirky and unique people are intelligent, patient and smart, please be friends and romantise them!
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